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The entire rampage took about 10 minutes at Red Lake High School, second only to the Columbine school shooting in American history. Did we miss survival signals that would have avoided this tragedy?

 

The flash animation created by Jeff Weise, (Weesez) The Smoking Gun, was literally mental practice for the act he planned to commit. “If you look at the things that Jeff wrote, if you look at the blogs he wrote, it's clear that he was practically predicting what he was going to do." - David Walsh, National Institute on Media and the Family

 

Our social mind chides us for even momentarily considering that someone we know could be capable of such horrible actions. "We, in contrast to every other creature in nature, choose not to explore - and even to ignore - survival signals..." - Gift of Fear, Gavin de Becker.

(Review the Yello Dyno's Memo - A Mystery Is  Unfolding In Sri Lanka ..02/05 - survival signals.)


Photo: In rememberence, Neva Rogers, an English instructor, at Red Lake High was the adviser to the yearbook and the student newspaper, helping students prepare sports reports and, with Spring nearing, profiles of graduating seniors. "She just made a point when students had personal difficulties to be someone that they could talk to," said her daughter, Cindy Anderson. "And they did."

 

Did his classmates make light of survival signals? There are two groups of students being questioned by the FBI. Nine students, some of whom may have been
co-conspirators, and a larger group of students who may have heard Jeff speak about the attack.

"Weise also is said to have joked that he thought it would be cool to shoot up a high school. Classmate Ashley Morrison says nobody took Weise seriously — but now she wishes they had."

"Sondra Hegstrom who had classes with Weise, said he was quiet and 'never said anything.' He was teased -- 'terrorized,' she said -- by people who thought he was weird."

Did his family ignore survival signals? At six feet and 250 pounds, Jeff Weise also was the target of constant razzing. "Plus he was held back a couple of grades," family member Lorene Gurneau said. - Jeff Weise: A mystery in a life full of hardship - C. Haga, H. Padilla and R. Meryhew,  Star Tribune. 3/23/05

Did his teachers overlook survival signals? "Hanging in class was one of Jeff Weise’s pictures, a skeleton wearing a helmet with a swastika on it. It bore the words “march to the death song ’til your boots fill with blood.” In hindsight, didn’t survival signals go off in everyone who looked at that picture? - http://www.thetrenchcoat.com/#

We as educators have no control over a student’s genetics or their home life, but we do have the opportunity to create a safe school environment so students have a haven for over forty hours a week. With that amount of time we certainly should positively impact a child’s life.

Primal coding that moves us all unconsciously holds answers for teachers.
"Women, particularly in big cities, live with a constant wariness. Their lives are literally on the line in ways men just don’t experience. Ask some man you know, ‘When is the last time you were concerned or afraid that another person would harm you?’ Many men cannot recall an incident within years. Ask a woman the same question and most will give you a recent example or say, ‘Last night,’ ‘Today,’ or even ‘Every day.’” (Try this out for yourself with your friends.)

"…It is understandable that the perspectives of men and women on safety are so different – men and women live in different worlds. I don’t remember where I first heard this simple description of one dramatic contrast between the genders, but it is strikingly accurate: At their core, men are afraid women will laugh at them, while at their core, women are afraid men will kill them” - Gift of Fear, Gavin de Becker, - Forward to Raising Safe Kids written by Gavin de Becker,

Humiliation is a primal motivator for men, especially our teen boys who are establishing their identity. In all the horrific cases of school shootings you will always find this element, humiliation, strikingly present.

The culturally accepted act of domination through humiliation has to be corrected and our schools are the best environment to make that pattern change. Being bullied is humiliating. Everyday acts of bullying have left many of us with painful memories of our childhood, but in today’s schools the price has become our students', teachers’ and staff’s very lives.  In a study conducted by the United States Bureau of Justice in 2001, 86% of students said that, "other kids picking on them, making fun of them or bullying them" causes teenagers to turn to lethal violence in the schools.

When you address the element of humiliation in the conflict between the bully and his victim you will be able to de-escalate potentially volatile situations. Both sides must experience the other's discomfort, empathy must be brought into the relationship. (Review Yello Dyno's Memo 12/04 - What feels as good as chocolate?) The easiest approach for a long-term change is to begin with our elementary schools. New patterns of behavior are more easily learned by children under the age of twelve. How quickly your elementary students will become your junior high students.

All Yello Dyno curricula and materials have at the heart of the lessons the essentials for breaking the pattern of predator and victim. Do you really want to wait for a "ten minute" rampage, or will your survival signals alert you to the importance of teaching the Yello Dyno knowledge to the students in your schools right now?

Yours for child safety,

Jan Wagner
Yello Dyno Founder

P.S. Educators, Non-profits, Churches and Law Enforcement: To have a Yello Dyno Curriculum sent to you for a thirty-day review, call me at 888-935-5639 ext. 100 or email me at jan@yellodyno.com.

More information on reviewing our curricula.

Free Special Report: Yello Dyno's Guide to Protecting Your Child From Violent Kids
This Special Report has excellent parent information to help them recognize children who need help. Parents are also encouraged to join forces with their school to keep everyone safe.

P.S.S. “One of the things that concerns me … is that I noticed there wasn’t [much] exposure in the media to what had happened [in Red Lake],” Darrell Scott, father of a Columbine victim Rachel Scott, observes. “When Columbine’s tragedy happened, there was massive coverage for months, and [now with] the second-largest shooting in American history in schools, it was like the third and fourth story in different places that I looked.” - http://www.thetrenchcoat.com/#

A Clown Animation by Weise gives obvious and eerie signs of his internal suffering.

Next Months Yello Dyno's Memo: How to "counter" the effects of violence in the media on our youth.

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