One in three Americans will develop cancer in their lifetimes.
One in three girls will experience sexual abuse before the age of 18.
You’re sitting in your doctor’s office, hearing the words, “You have cancer.” First, denial engulfs you, “You must be mistaken,” then a tidal wave of fear sweeps through triggering memories of friends who suffered terribly before they passed away, then you hear death knocking at your door, all in a flash of a few seconds.
Soon you have a team of doctors working together to help you beat cancer. It all looks positive and supportive until you notice that everyone and everything is acted upon you. You’re not the expert, the surgeon, the radiologist or the oncologist. You don’t have years of training and experience with cancer, yet what happens will be your experience, your life. In the end, the experts go home at night and you are left alone with reality – it’s you who has cancer, the internal predator. It’s you who will suffer and may die. What should you do?
If you don’t speak up, you give over your life and the choices of therapy to the experts; you will invariably be put into a cookie-cutter mold of statistics and treatments.
“Imagine you’ve just been blessed with a newborn baby girl. She is the latest model of human being, the proud result of ages of R & D that makes the most fantastic computer seem like an abacus. She has more brain cells than you and me combined, more in fact, than there are grains of sand on your favorite beach. She can learn, teach, design, build. She has within her the cleverness and dexterity to catch an ant or a whale. She can fly – literally. She can travel to another planet, and many of her contemporaries will. Can you believe, even for a moment, that this astonishing being was designed without a defense system? Nature’s
investment in this child is far too great for such an oversight….” - Forword by Gavin de Becker, Raising Safe Kids In An Unsafe World by Jan Wagner
For example, “You are in the 30% that are most likely to have cancer return in the next ten years, therefore you need chemo.” Much as the average American family has 2.5 children, these are how treatments are advised, but are they right for you? Few patients ever really take the initiative to actively participate in the decision-making (fear makes most of the decisions), and even fewer – about 10-15% – take charge of their own recovery.
Dr. Bernie Siegel, in his classic book, Love, Medicine & Miracles, calls them the “exceptional patients.” Their recoveries are often seen as miraculous when, in fact, they worked hard at it.
This focused effort is affirmed in another book: Cancer: 50 Essential Things to Do, by Greg Anderson. Anderson interviewed over 15,000 cancer patients who were expected to die but beat the odds, and he noted what they all did in common. Both books are inspiring and go beyond the subject of cancer to open our minds to the fact that each of us has the ability to be, by some people’s standards, LIVING MIRACLES.
“Dual Control: Participation in the decision-making process, more than any other factor, determines the quality of the doctor-patient relationship. The exceptional patient wants to share responsibility for life and treatment, and doctors who encourage that attitude can help all their patients heal faster.
The value of participation has been borne out in two recent studies of children. At the University of Wisconsin Medical School, Dr. Charlene Kavanagh compared a group of severely burned children who received standard nursing care with another group who were taught to change their own dressings. Those who had an active role needed less medication and had fewer complications. In Palo Alto, California, a group of asthmatic children were taught about their disease and the drugs used to control it, and encouraged to decide for themselves when they needed medication. They missed far fewer school days and their average rate of emergency-room visits dropped from one a month to one every six months. Furthermore, shared responsibility increases cooperation and reduces the resentments…” - Love, Medicine & Miracles, Dr. Bernie Siegel, p.51-52
At what age do we allow our children to share in the decision process for their personal protection? This is particularly relevant because predators strike when children are alone.
Is our response on the subject of child predators much like that of the cancer patient? Denial: “Not my child.” Fear: images of terrifying cases in the news. A knock at the door: “We’re sorry to inform you….” Or will we speak up and participate in the decision-making process?
Who is on a child's team of experts? “...the parents, or is it now the daycare center, or the parents of your child’s friend, or the school, or the mall, or the police, or the university, or the government? And when do our children themselves take over? Is it the first time they are allowed to be alone in the house or the first time they walk to school on their own? Or is it that afternoon when they first back the car down the driveway (and over the sidewalk) into the street?” - Foreword by Gavin de Becker, Raising Safe Kids In An Unsafe World.
Why are we hesitating and leaving the “patient,” the child, out of the decision-making process? When do we stop “acting upon them” and instead include them. In the end, the experts “go home at night,” but the child is left alone with reality, the predator. The child suffers the consequences.
"Children have fought wars. They’ve built nations. They are strong and they have courage.
Don’t treat them any less than that because they are young." - Poltergeist II
Dual Control: As part of a child's team, adults need to help create safe environments, but children need to be included in the process. Adults must teach children to recognize dangerous behavior, to trust their feelings, and know how to act to stay safe. Implementing the three fundamentals of the Yello Dyno Method™ determines the outcome of a child’s encounter with a predator, much as the cancer patient must understand and address their internal predator. Each child has within them the “exceptional” ability to share responsibility to protect their own life. The team of experts who include the child in the decision-making acknowledges that each child has the ability to protect themselves and be, by some people’s standards, LIVING MIRACLES.
Will you help children dear to you gain the safety skills they need to protect their lives? The value of children ages 4 to 12 participating in the Yello Dyno Program has been borne out countless times. We’re here to help you create miracles, safe kids. Review a Yello Dyno Curriculum today.
Yours for child safety,
Yello Dyno Founder
P.S. Yello Dyno's NEW! Tricky People! Curriculum (Grades 4-5) PowerPoint presentation, with three songs and six video lessons embedded in the presentation, wakes up and empowers children to protect themselves from the dangers of Tricky People, child predators. Plan to implement this curriculum next fall or, better yet, there are often end-of-the-school-year funds available that can be utilized now.
Educators, Non-profits, Churches and Law Enforcement: To have a Yello Dyno Curriculum sent to you for a thirty-day review, fill out this online form, or call me at
888-935-5639 ext. 100 or email me at Jan@YelloDyno.com
P.S.S. More information on reviewing our curricula from an evaluation by REdS (Research and Educational Services): The findings show that 80.8% of the students tested demonstrated an increase in knowledge after one cycle of the Yello Dyno Curriculum.
Comments? Ideas for future memos? Contact me: Jan@YelloDyno.com.
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